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The 7th Woman
Truth Behind Closed Doors
I Won The Lottery and Bought A Man
Naked Truth

The titles is not what you think the story is about...

Open Marriages

Let's just start off this conversation with defining what an "open marriage" means. An open marriage a marriage in which both spouses allow one another to have sexual relationships with other people. Okay, let that sink in...

First, it is to each its own in how couple chooses to deal with their union. Here is my thing. There is something called STD's. If you are wanting to sleep with various people or even one person that you have no knowledge of their history, does that not increase your chances of catching an STD? I do not consider an open marriage and adultery to be the same thing. Adultery involves deception in which the spouse is not aware of a sexual or intimate relationship. In both cases, it requires both spouses to be in communication about their feelings or attractions to other people.

Let's use my marriage as an example! First, let me say my marriage is not perfect by any means. My spouse and I are two nuts that just happen to love each other and find common ground. I have an "open marriage" that does not include physical intimacy with other people. Notice I said, "physical". My marriage is open to communication of each person's feelings. So, what does that mean? It means that if either one of us are feeling that our ship is sinking, it's time to be honest with how we really feel about each other's dislikes. This can be something as simple as spending more time with one another, being more sensitive to feelings, how are we growing apart...These should be the type of open marriage communication efforts. Sure, we find other people attractive, hell, that is life, it will not stop because you are married. But neither one of us are the type of individuals to investigate one another's motives. If you are in a marriage where you have to investigate your partner's whereabouts, motives, actions, opposite sex friends, then maybe you should not be married. Relationships are based on trust and if two people are not secure the marriage will NOT last. I guarantee it...

If either me or my spouse decides we wanted to have an affair, we are going to tell one another. That is a promise we made. To be honest. My husband is aware that other men have attractions for me. I am aware that other women have attractions for him. We both find each other to be attractive people, so, why would it be a surprise for others. Some may think this is crazy, but , this is what's called friendship. Think about it, women confide to other women about men, just like men confide to other men about women. Why not confide in your spouse??? Why do spouses keep things from one another, just plain mistrust and insecurity. That is like being in a relationship with GOD and yet, you can't tell GOD how you really feel, even if you are angry with HIM. GOD already knows the truth, so why lie about it...

This is not to say we willingly want to hurt each other or destroy our marriage. But, marriage should not feel like a jailhouse to the point you cannot talk or do anything..

Some marriages just needs honesty, while some need to be annulled. 

If you married ask yourself these questions. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person? Are both of you truly content with each other's imperfections? Do you love this person unconditionally? Do you regret getting married? Are you being honest with your spouse? Are you being honest with yourself? Is my marriage a lie? Is my marriage TRUTH?

PhC. Doctor of Common Sense

My mother always told me growing up that if you lack common sense you really have nothing else. I was never one to pursue an education, I was just reared in a family that place strong emphasis on education.

Some people feel that having an educational degree can increase their chances for a career or income. Truth be told; a degree just looks good on paper. This is not to say gaining an education is not important and meaningful. It is very meaningful, but, how it changes you is what makes the difference. The statistics state that the average income with a high school diploma is $30,316..Well, I was making $35,000 working as ERS in a call center in the late 90's...Far more than what entry level teaching jobs paid. It paid more because of 6-month wage increases with yearly bonuses...It also matters what career field you enter, your family size, lifestyles, etc...

When I completed my masters last year..All I heard from family was get the doctoral, get the doctoral. I was like, why? So, I can be valued by my titles. NOT! I rather be valued by my beliefs in how God's sees me and how I treat people. Do not get me wrong, there are many people with doctoral degrees that are extremely humble and they use it order to help others. However, there is a high percentage that is pure arrogance.

I recently decided to go back to school to obtain an Ed.S. degree that is a post-doctoral of the Ed.D (Doctor of Education). I initially had no plans of going back to school. I was just looking for some classes to get certificates in. I want to work with adults pursuing their GED's, while writing my own books.

I believe for me pursuing an education is my love for writing. Most graduate programs invovle writing! I do not fit in with many of the Ed.D. or PhD. candidates and some alumni. I guess I am too down to earth and love laughing and enoying my life. I believe you can be focused, determined, and rewarding to others while being COOL as the same time.

Some people need a title to feel important, I just need GOD....

Nudity, cameras, and social media

It makes no sense at the level of insecurity in some women. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable in your body and feeling good about you. I love posing with the camera. However, have some level of class. There is a thing called private messages, emails, text messages or even webcams in which you can send photos to whomever you are talking too..

If you want to be sexy give something to leave to imagination. For a man or woman to be looking at your profile pic of the crack of your ass, breast, and crotches really can be a turn off. Also, if you work for an employer or even self-employed some may find it offensive.

I love the art of nudity that is how God made us. I think the naked body is an amazing aspect of God's concept. However, use the body to imitate life and give purpose to body image..

This is the daily attitude...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MszR0zuSJBc

I am NOT an angry black woman…

Some women blame everything on the man. NEWSFLASH not everything is always his fault. It takes two in any given relationship. Stop trying to change a man. Stop trying to control a man. Stop trying to PLAY a man. When the imperfect man that is perfect for God’s purpose comes into your life he will be a blessing. He will not get in God’s way.

Carrying around this bitterness and hatred for your brothas is not ATTRACTIVE. I never heard my mother ever bad –mouth my father in front of me. If you are a single-mom, you have God’s strength to rear that child. Realize you consciously made a choice to have unprotected sex with him. It takes two to make a baby…

Stop putting standards on education, income, and status…Start putting FAITH in GOD to send you a representation of HIM. However, if you choose to put standards up make sure you can hold your own as well.

Stop depending on a man to make you happy whether you married or single. Only God can give you true happiness. Happiness has to start with you. Otherwise, you will be one miserable old ___!