You will not hear this anywhere else...
Sex is a natural part of life.....
Now, we all know that sex is often a topic of taboo or something that people are not comfortable talking about. Truth is...Sex needs to be discussed as much as possible, why? Well, here are few reasons. Sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, abortion, sexual abuse, sexual fetishes, pedophilia, masturbation, sexual lust, homosexuality, lesbianism, bi-sexuality, sexuality for the disabled, sexuality for the elderly, impotency, and sexual bondage. ( I intend to do separate blogs on these different topics)
So, let's begin with reality..Every human has a sex drive. Some are high, while others are low. Some people are comfortable with their sexuality, while some find it embarrassing or uncomfortable. Truth is many people have difficulty with their sexuality for a number of reasons. It could due to some type of traumatic event such as rape, molestation, incest or psychological brainwashing.
Once considering a career is sex therapy.. I came to a realization that not everyone is willing to open up about their most private areas of their lives. Also, there is much preparation and training in the professional world of sex therapy when interacting with child molesters or rapists..So, it is best to either provide seminars, workshops or write books about sexuality and the problems that come with it. That way people do not feel embarrassed to seek out help or knowledge about human sexuality.
In order to experience full sexual fulfillment with a partner. 1) Both must be comfortable with one another. This means comfortable with one another's nudity and appearance. Sexual arousal first starts in the mind. So, being sexually aroused by your partner's nudity and appearance is a GOOD thing! 2) It helps to be in love with your partner. Otherwise sex with someone you do not love or care about it, is just pure self gratification. You are better off masturbating than making yourself or that person feel they are just a piece of meat! 3) There has to be chemistry between both partners. In order words two people have to feel so much in sync that they can literally read each other's thoughts. This is mind sex. You have to make love to the person's intellect, actually make one another feel as though they are the only person in your bed.
Steamy enough...Let's talk about some deep stuff...
Oral or anal sex should be something two people are comfortable with. Noone should every be forced to do anything sexually they are not comfortable doing. This works both ways for men and women. Noone should ever do things in order to please the other partner, unless you find it pleasing yourself.
Oral sex should be done delicately and sensually...Anal sex should be done in the same manner. I would consider educating yourself in a human sexuality course about sexual fetishes. It can be an eye opener...These classes teaches you the sensitivity areas of the penis and vagina. The parts of the reproductive anatomy like you would not believe. Yes, this is real sex education. Something that the public school seriously missed! If you are in college check your academic catalog, If not, I recommend searching for sex therapist online that provide information and materials that can help with understanding human sexuality. http://www.aasect.org/ ~This is a good website with tons of information, sex therapist, trained professional and literature on human sexuality.
There is so much more to sex than just a climax. If you ever find yourself feeling empty after having sex, it is likely you did not get true fulfillment and neither did your partner. Two people should always feel more close and relaxed than anything after love-making.
Sex is the highest form of intimate communication. Two people are speaking with their bodies. Sex talk is often one or both partners speaking intimately with one another while making love. Expression can be in sounds of the penis and vagina connected, language expression of partners speaking their thoughts, kissing, moaning, breathing, hugging, and touching..are all forms of sexual expression..If you lack any of these in your sex life, I would recommend talking with your partner to see what may be causing the lack of communication..
Orgasms is considered the ending phase of the sexual journey for two people. An orgasm has been described as intense or unrestrained excitement. I truly have no words to describe an orgasm, other than the best sexual gift GOD could give to humans..Every orgasm is not the same and it cannot be measured. It is something only the human body understands, yet, we cannot fully handle...An orgasm was not designed to be understood only to be enjoyed! And how great of life, is it when two people can enjoy it together! This is another reason why being a healthy sexual being is important. Two people who love and respect one another, should enjoy one another sexually with no shame or guilt.
I will do a separate blog on female sexuality and the human body...
Finally, the most important aspect of sex is to be a healthy sexual being with liberation to enjoy either yourself or your partner to the fullest capability...
To be continued....
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