Take a look at some visuals of interracial pairings:
I am a black women that is married to a white man. We got married in 2010, I have known him for 17 years..We both dated outside our races prior to marriage. We both were raised in two-parent households and we both came up in a generation were racial barriers were not as harsh as they were during our parents' generation.
I can personally say that it truly depends on the person, their upbringing, and their exposure to diversity. I have heard many stories, myths, and stereotypes about interracial paring. And, let me go ahead and just state facts versus stereotypes:
1) Stereotype: White men treat black women better/ FACT: My father was a black man and was faithfully married to my mother for nearly 40 years until her death. I grew up in a loving environment, I never wanted for nothing and my father was a true leader in our household. Me marrying white had nothing to do with my experience with black men..I just happen to fall in love with the man of my dreams. White men has just as much flaws as a black men. Men are Men!!
2) Stereotype: White men are less endowed than Black men sexually/ FACT: White men and Black men penises all work the same way. They come in different sizes and shapes :-)
3) Stereotype: White men only want Black women as sex objects/ FACT: A man is going to be a man regardless what color he is. It is up to the woman how she allows a man to treat her.
4) Stereotype: White men only marry black women that are educated/FACT: Yes, I do have a master's degree, but when I got married I only had an associate degree while obtaining a bachelor's with no job....White men marry who they love, there is no educational or income requirement
Okay, here are some questions and comments that have been stated to me by family and friends since I been married: "It is an insult for a black women to marry a white man", "I personally feel that white men are more into black women than black men", " Why would you choose to marry a white man", " As longs as you are all happy, that is all that matters", " I love interracial couples, cant wait for you guys to have kids", "I love me some black women", " I do not do white boys", "lusting after that white dick", "Marrying outside your race is okay as long as you do not bring children into it".~~~~Most of the people that made these comments to me, are very unhappy in their lives
One thing about me is that I can totally respect how people feel about things and not be offended because my life is not based on what people think. My life is based off the God I serve..Fortunately, our families are very supportive..In fact, we often get treated like celebrities when we are out in public..Yes, we do get those looks and stares at times...It really depends on your location.. In military communities and larger cities you tend to see more diversity in families than you would in smaller communities.
I know one couple, a black woman and white guy that planned to marry and her(black woman) parents almost disowned her..Happy to say they are happier than ever with 2 kids. I have one friend who pretty much grew up in a racist household to the point his father was a member of the KKK. He married a black woman and had three beautiful daughters..I also know people who wanted to marry outside their race but chose not too because of PEOPLE's opinions!!
Being married to someone from a different race is a blessing because you have the advantage of being in a "blended" family. But most importantly is that you are happy with the person you with... If there is someone that treats you right, respects you, supports you, have common goals and interest, and has your back..You got be pretty STUPID and RACIST not allow that person to be in your life just because their of a different race..
It boils down to be happy and not allow people to dictate who you should be with even if it is family...
All in all, at the end of the day I am very content with my life and my man!!!
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